Not Taking Offense – a Key of Transition

25 04 2014

keys in a women's handHow do you handle when someone doesn’t follow through? Do you take offense? One day recently I found myself facing this question, as for three solid hours, one conversation after another I was faced with people who couldn’t follow through with things they had committed to do.

We are in a season where everyone’s lives are in transition. Transition is a good thing as it gives room for new things. I think of it as a time of birthing! The bad part is just as with new birth, the other end of the spectrum is death. As new things are birthing, other things are coming to an end, or dying.

In this season of transition we need to remember, not to take offense. Not everyone recognizes transition, and more over has the skills or know how to navigate grieving and in the process of letting go,  to way for the new. We are so quick to jump into the new things without giving proper time and energy to bring the old things to an end, what I like to call finishing well!

Finishing well is a skill everyone needs to know from the child who is entering pre-school, to the executive on wall street as well as the pastor or leader  in the local church.

Not taking time to finish well, causes us and others to take offense. Taking offense is a natural hurt response, which we must then train our brains to turn to God and ask the question which will re-frame that hurt response. That question is, What are you up to? I am feeling hurt. Turning to God allows us to see what He is up to and protects us from a premature break in relationship.

I know how hard it is to begin a new thing, while struggling to finish another. The amount of emotional and physical energy required is tremendous and because of this drain we must do two things: first allow ourselves more time to physically rest, and second is to take extra time to be alone with God.

 “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

 Proverbs 3:5 – 6

To those who are in transition, I feel your pain. Don’t lose heart, for God is there and will see you through this and every future transition you will ever experience!

Blessings and Complete Joy,

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